When I comment, I usually raise a contrary point.
Because really, If I where to say you were so perfect, so right, so genius, how much would that really help? It would inspire you of course. But, would it make you do more, think better, or push further?
Rarely does it go beyond feeding one’s ego.
We like people to agree at us. We like people to reinforce what we say. We. Like. People. To. Like. Us. Up to the point where we see people repeatedly saying all the ‘nice’ stuffs again and again.
So what exactly is wrong with that? Nothing really. But that doesn’t mean either that things shouldn’t get any better. Right?
The Blogosphere Cheering Machine!
I liked the fact that most bloggers are… well… a nice bunch of people. We’re all very supportive, we exchange thoughts and ideas, we contribute on each other’s blogs, we help out even if we stay till the wee hours of the morning, we basically form very strong friendships even though it’s based online.
Makes you want to live in a real community of bloggers right?
The Side Effects
I think, at some point, these things have developed a culture of mediocrity. The danger of being average.
The problem is that like a Cheering Squad, we just keep on cheering and cheering even though at some point, we shouldn’t. Or on many instances, we should have acted like the Guidance Counselor and have told someone how some things went wrong, or on how things could be better.
Why I Need You To Be Brutal
Just to clarify. Brutal doesn’t mean to hate. Brutal in this context means to be blunt.
I need you to be brutal because you have to reach that level wherein I’d have to listen. Same goes for others. If you want to disagree with something, don’t say ‘maybe that’s true, but I think…’. Instead, directly say what you have in mind. ‘I think you’re wrong because…’
If you give leeway for someone to be just okay about it, that won’t help. Be brutal.
Command someone to actually take your point.
Why I Need You To Be Honest
Simply because I need it. Simply because bloggers desperately need it.
In my niche where I blog and give blogging tips advice, I need not only to be confident, but to be sure as well of what I’m talking about. In Make Money Online, product reviews might all end up to be fabricated… and many unsuspecting purchasers could be in potential danger or getting their hard-earned money go to waste. The list goes on and on of course.
I need you to be honest because that’s how we should filter out the bad from the good. The scam from the genuine. The lie from the truth. More than that, it’s a way of driving people to push forward. It makes them think of correcting their ways or generating a better idea.
The thing about honesty is that it compels us to make things better.
So let’s make a deal. Let’s be brutally honest. I would, and so will you. Because as my words affects other people’s minds, the same way as your words affect mine too.
After all, if you’re really that perfect, or right, or genius… then I’d be brutally honest about that too.
